Our own inner anxiety is at the root of the drama in our relationships. This information is crucial because anxiety is what makes us irritable and quick to overreact, and that’s what causes drama in families. Once we understand how anxiety works within ourselves, we can notice and manage it to transform our knee-jerk reactions into thoughtful responses.

When we fall in love, that primal chemistry we feel is actually Mother Nature’s way of scoping out our ideal mate. We’re kidding ourselves that the “grass is greener” in a new relationship because we would still carry the same emotional baggage into our next marriage. Marriage is a school for lovers, and the lessons we must learn would be the same the second time around. So, with the exception of spousal abuse, there’s no advantage in switching study partners.

Currently, we don’t realize our families are caught in a vicious circle of anxiety, blame, distancing, and projection—which in turn lead to more anxiety. My book is designed to open our eyes to the severity and urgency of the problem. Happily, we can step out of this vicious circle and build a different kind of marriage that produces happier kids with less baggage.

In my book, I explain how Mother Nature gave us chemistry to ensure we married the perfect mate for us. Once we realize the grass is not greener with someone else, we can settle down to create the best marriage possible.

We also go on safari in our family of origin, to learn how we were programmed for anxiety as children, and how we can reduce it as adults. We’ll also learn:

• how to fix problems in our children by fixing them in ourselves.
• how to build the courage to follow through and do what’s best for our families in the long run.
• how to build a passionate friendship with our spouse that can last a lifetime.

Just One Degree of Change Alters the Rest of Your Life.
The goal of my book is not to sell you a miracle cure, but to help change the course of your family life by only one degree. To use an analogy, imagine you are the captain of a sailing ship. You think you have already charted the best course for your journey, but in fact, the course you have chosen will take you over many stormy, dangerous seas. This book will help you alter the course of your journey by one degree.

One degree of change may not seem like much, but with time, your new course takes you further and further from that original, stormy route. Perhaps this change will be enough to keep your marriage intact, whereas you might otherwise have ended up divorced, or with a troubled child.

For some families, their decks are awash with anxiety, and they cannot even see the shoals that lie ahead. This book will give you the awareness you need to avoid the stormy seas before you run aground.

The goal is not to be perfect–no family, including my own, can claim to be–but to start wherever you are and make that one degree of progress. Regardless of the current state of your family, you can improve your marriage, and raise happier kids. The stakes are too high, so please don’t settle for anything less.

You can check out my book by clicking here.

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