Does Your Child Have Problems? Take a Look at Your Marriage…
A family where the primary focus is on the children creates its own worst nightmare. At what point did society buy Freud’s paradigm that more attention to our kids will produce healthier adults? Where’s the evidence for that? We take this idea so for granted that we no longer even QUESTION that more attention equals better kids.
And we’re reaping what we sow: health and social problems have increased in our kids because, in our anxious focus on our children, we’re unconsciously projecting our baggage onto them. What concerns you most about your child? Beware the self-fulfilling prophecy…
If we focus on our marriages, our kids will fall into place. Firstly, we parents enjoy a dependable, lasting friendship with our spouses. Secondly, by leaving our kids alone to grow up, they’ll learn the independence and social skills they need to become the dynamic, responsible citizens we all want to raise. Thirdly, our marriages will become great role models for our children, to help them avoid the stress of divorce, and blended families.
A marriage-focused family benefits all parties more than a child-focused family. There are tips on how to stay married and raise great kids on this site. Please take a look around.
Kids pick up on everything, and research shows that children can "catch" their parents' stress just like they catch a virus—soaking up the stress that pervades a household until their developing nervous systems reach "overload." Then kids act-out, or get sick.
