Who Are We? Part 2

Along with reactivity, the second tendency a successful coach addresses is blame. We humans have a strong tendency to focus on “the other person,” and how their behavior “out there” is reponsible for what we’re feeling inside. (Some of us tend to blame ourselves for what others are feeling “out there,” while most [...]

Who Are We? Part 1

Who are we? I believe human beings are herd animals, and we share much instinctive behavior with our animal cousins. The most obvious examples are the mating instinct, the parent-child bond, and the fight-or-flight instinct.
In biological terms, what separates humans from other animals is our cerebral cortex. The more we [...]

Surprise! You Married the Perfect Spouse!

Have you ever looked at your spouse and wondered, “Did I make a mistake?” Me too.
Karen and I were friends from college for nine years, but it was in Paris on May 8, 1992 when we became more than friends. We were so in love it was like a movie (including [...]